Saturday, July 27, 2013

Practicing Awareness of Microagressions

Dr. Sue defines microaggressions as "everyday slights and indignities, put downs and insults that people of color, women, LGBT population or those who are marginalized experience in their day to day interactions with people (Wiley, 2010)." I had a difficult time noticing any microaggressions this week as I have only been working in my classroom and no where else. But I do recall an incident with an older family member who I won't name. When I was younger, he was driving me around the town where he grew up and as we drove by a bi-racial couple, he gasped and said "Ugh, that is just disgusting!" I looked at him and said "Why?" and he replied that because it was a black man and a white woman holding hands. I shook my head and said, "There is nothing wrong with that!" And he just stopped the conversation. This want to say that this is either an example of a micro assault (b/c it is clear racism) OR a micro insult (b/c it's demeaning). This person has made several racist comments before, but he NEVER says it to the person and is harmless. He thankfully is very civil in public and I think because my family and I are not afraid to speak our mind when he makes comments like that, he has learned to keep his negative thoughts to himself.

When he makes racist comments, it really disappoints me. I believe we are all the same inside- I even do a lesson with my kindergarteners every year when I teach them about the history of Martin Luther King, Jr. I show them a white egg and a brown egg. We notice how they look different, just like people do! Then I break the eggs and show the children the yolks. I ask the kids, do you notice anything different about what the eggs have on the inside? And they of course do NOT. So I connect the eggs to people and how we may all look different on the outside, but on the inside we all have feelings- that can be hurt when mean things are said and done.

Learning and thinking about microaggressions has opened my eyes to how there are still so many prejudices and stereotypes that people hold, no matter kind-hearted the person can be. I admit, I too have realized I hold some after learning about the three different types of microaggressions. I will definitely try to be more conscious about my thoughts and actions when it comes to dealing with students, parents and families and making sure I am respectful and welcoming to all.


References
Wiley, J. (2010, October 4). Microaggressions in Everyday Life. Retrieved on July 26, 2013 from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJL2P0JsAS4

Friday, July 19, 2013

Perspectives on Diversity and Culture

I wrote to three friends who are all culturally different from me in one way or another. I was very interested in hearing their definitions of the terms culture and diversity.

1. The first person I asked was our school's Centerstone behavior therapist, Barbara. Barbara works with children who have behavior problems and she works with them at school, does home visits and is just a wonderful person to work with. She sees all sorts of family culture so I was really interested in hearing her definitions of culture and diversity. This was Barbara's response:

"Well, culture to me is a set of beliefs that a set of people share regardless of age, race or sex. 
Diversity, to me, is differences within a group that sets one apart from the rest. Most young people these days are very diverse in the way the live and their belief system. 
We have our own culture in our school versus others that work with children in a different capacity. We even have several cultures within our school from administration to the cafeteria workers."

I found it interesting how she discussed the culture in our school versus others. That goes along with what we have learned about in our course. Just like there is family culture and culture between professions.  In our field, schools and early childhood facilities have different cultures, even if we live in the same town. For example, because I teach in a very low-income area of town, the culture at our school might be different from the areas of town that have higher-incomes. 

Speaking of which, I found it interesting while at an inservice this past week, I was sitting with a teacher who works in a school on the "rich side of town." We were discussing parent-volunteers and I was mentioning how we don't get too many at our school because they are working several jobs or may not have the transportation. The teacher from the rich part of town said that she didn't get much either b/c the parents are busy working to afford the big houses and way of living. I never even thought of it that way! 

2. The second person I asked was one of my best friends from college, Jim. Jim now lives in New Orleans and works at an art studio.  He's very talented in art and gets along great with everyone. I'm sure he is surrounded by much diversity and culture where he lives so I was curious to hear how he defines culture. His response was:

"Culture is made up of the creations that surround us. Culture is man made. Whether it be religion, movies, or french fries, it's the things that we created by being intelligent beings that we surround ourselves with daily. That's why culture changes between different groups of people. Different groups of people surround themselves with different man-made things. And sub-cultures are broken up from there. Diversity is the difference between these groups of people. The easiest way to identify that diversity is perhaps the different sub-culture creations that suround these groups. However, diversity isn't always man-made. Diversity can be cultural, can be by heritage, where we live, the color of our skin. Diversity is just our differences, and a portion of that is our differences in culture."


I was interested in his definition of culture in that it's manmade. Especially the part where he stated culture changed between different groups of people. That is so true. For example, when I'm with my family, we usually are seated in the living room talking and watching TV. But when I am visiting my best friend's family, we will sit out on the porch and listen to music or sit around a bonfire and talk. There is typically more conversation with the later group. Culture has to do with everything we do (Family Cultures: Dynamic Interactions). I believe he is spot on with his definition of diversity. I even discussed in my first discussion post about how diversity has subgroups. Such as we can be diverse by our relationships... this would be things like: mother, parent, teenagers, widow, etc. A subgroup within mothers would be a mother who is apart of the group "mothers against drunk driving" (Deaux, 2008).

3. The 3rd person who I asked was my best friend Andrea. She is also a teacher and we've been friends since childhood. She said
"To me, culture is one's background based on traditions, religion, beliefs, and upbringing. Culture helps define who we are and why we behave the way we do. Diversity is recognizing there are differences between other's cultures (beliefs, traditions, & upbringings). It is becoming increasingly more important in our society to learn about and respect the diverse cultures that make up our diverse country. We are a country built upon diverse cultures and it's critical to respect that."

When Andrea said "Culture helps define who we are and why we behave the way we do" made me think of the podcast we watched in week 2. Nadiyah (in the podcast) discussed that culture has a wide-range of meaning because culture has to do with everything we do (Family Cultures: Dynamic Interactions).

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I also noticed that some aspects of the term "culture" have been omitted from their definitions. Culture is a much more broad term than most realize. It's not only religion, traditions and beliefs. It everything we do. The week 2 podcasts discussed how culture is also how we behave and react in certain situations, how we present ourselves, how we greet others, etc. It's so broad, it really has to do with everything about us (Family Cultures: Dynamic Interactions).

Thinking about other people’s definitions of culture and diversity has influenced my own thinking about these topics in that I have realized how much my understanding of the terms have changed in the 3 weeks I have been in this course. I also discovered that between all three responses, when giving me their definition of diversity, the word DIFFERENCES popped up every time. I even underlined them to point it out. I now think of the words diverse and differences almost like synonyms. I believe diversity is not something that should be shunned or ignored. It is a part of life and that I need to expose children to much diversity in my care so that they grow up to be accepting individuals of other's diversity or differences from him or herself.


Resources 

Producer Unknown. Family Cultures: Dynamic Interactions [Video Podcast]. (Date Unknown). Retrieved on July 10, 2013 from the Resources section of week 2 of Walden University's EDUC 6164 class at https://class.waldenu.edu/webapps/portal/frameset.jsp?tab_tab_group_id=_2_1&url=%2F webapps%2Fblackboard%2Fexecute%2Flauncher%3Ftype%3DCourse%26id%3D_3397 499_1%26url%3D

Deaux, K. (2001). Social identity. In J. Worell (Ed.), Encyclopedia of women and gender (Vols. 1–2, pp. 1–9). Maryland Heights, MO: Academic Press.

Friday, July 12, 2013

My Family Culture

If my family was forced to evacuate the U.S. due to a catastrophe and we wouldn't be able to return and could only bring three items that represented my family culture, I would bring:


My Bible



If I witnessed or was a victim of a catastrophic event, I would need some comforting words to help me emotionally get through that experience. Growing up in a Christian home, I believe the Bible is full of comforting words that have personally gotten me through some of the toughest times of my life. My mother got me my bible when I turned 18 to remind me that even though I was legally an adult, to remember the values and beliefs I was raised with. She had it engraved with my name and it is so beautiful.


My Grandmother's wedding ring



My grandmother was the closest person I have loved to pass away. She died when I was 16 after a long battle with cancer of the blood. I have many wonderful memories with my Grandma as a child, including tea parties, playing board and card games, making home-made playdoh, reading books at the library and so much more. When we arrived at Grandma's, she would open her arms as wide as she could and give us the best hugs! My brother, sisters and I were her whole world. And when she passed, it was a very hard time for all of us. Almost 10 years after her death, my grandpa gave my sisters and I each a little box with a piece of Grandma's jewelry in it. He had us pick the box, not knowing what was inside it. When I opened mine, and saw the ring, I began to cry like a baby and asked him "Is this her wedding ring?" And he said yes. I ran up and gave him a hug and told him I would wear it constantly and take good care of it. That is the most valuable (sentimental, not financially) item I own and would be devastated to ever lose it. 


A photo album containing my most treasured photographs
In this photo album, I would want pictures of my family and friends from some of my favorite memories: such as my childhood, birthdays,  my high school and college graduations, my sister's wedding and my brother's weddings, the birth of my first niece and a few random memories that were special to me. My family values each other and we are very close. These photos would help me remember all the good times we had growing up in the States and be able to show my niece when she was older.



Here are "just a few" that would be in that album...

When my niece was born she spent a week in the NICU...
The VERY first time I got to hold my niece! I was so happy!
Every 4th of July my sisters would help Grandma make this American Flag jello cake! =)
My sisters and I with my niece on Thanksgiving 2012
My awesome kindergarten team at Panama City Beach on vacation together for fall break 2012
My sister and I's first day of Kindergarten! (We are Irish twins.) 
Making silly faces with my mom and brother 
Looking at a family photo album with both my grandmas! 
My mom made this Hawaiian themed dinner that I still remember to this day!
At my high school graduation, one of the happiest days of my life! =)
Loving on my big brother! <3
Me and my best friend enjoying some hot chocolate while going Christmas shopping
My niece on her 1st birthday! 
Me, giving my mom kisses as a toddler!
My mom, sisters and I at Niagara Falls ( I want to go back as an adult!)
Me, my sisters and just "a few" of my cousins... I have over 30 on my mom's side of the family. 
Giving my baby sister life lessons at the age of 2!  (I think this is hilarious!)




Now, if I arrived to the country where we would have to live and were told that I could only keep one personal item and have to give up the other two items you brought with you I would be devastated! I don't think I could choose. I am such a sentimental person that my heart would break giving up any three of these items. My bible could technically be replaced, but the sentiment that came with it could not. My grandmother's wedding ring could never be replaced and I would feel like I would lose a part of her if that ring was taken away. And the pictures- anyone who knows me knows how much I love my photos! I really need to get some fire proof containers to put them in now that I think about it!

So honestly, I don't know which one I would choose and I truly hope I never have to!

I have realized through this exercise, how sentimental I am when it comes to my family and friends. My most treasured items are ones that have meaning and sentiment behind them. I still have teddy bears given to me by my grandparents and parents at specific times in my life, such as when I got my tonsils out and woke up terrified and not knowing where I was. But I had this cute little teddy bear in a pink dress and bonnet to comfort me. I also have a teddy bear that is so soft given to me by my dad when I had to stay home from school one day b/c I was really sick. I couldn't bear to give those items up, but every other toy I owned was given away by the time I was an adult. My family truly means a lot to me as well as my friends. I wouldn't trade them for anything else in the world. 

Looking forward to hearing everyone else's responses this week! Hope you all enjoy your weekend!

Sincerely,
Jessica